Apologies for such a matter of fact and dispassionate blog yesterday, as you’ll understand I was a bit busy.
Mother and Son are doing very well and Alex is already showing signs of being very different to Maria. Firstly his feeding is fantastic. It took Maria 4 days to feed and even then it could take her 40 minutes to settle before feeding which severely tested Catriona physically and emotionally. Everyone tells you breast is best, but there will always be a small proportion who cannot feed this way for one reason or another. Catriona was determined to breast feed and both the midwives on the ward and visiting at home were extremely supportive. One crucial extra bit of assistance was a weekly breast feeding clinic at Crumpsall hospital which fortuately for us met 4 days after they came back from hospital. Catriona was worried that Maria wasn’t feeding enough as her weight had dropped and was on the verge of giving up, but just speaking to other mothers who had as much (or more) trouble feeding gave her the extra boost she needed. I supported the girls by monitoring the feeding times, durations and the time it took for Maria to settle into the feed and created an excel sheet to log it all! This sounds a bit daft and to be honest some of the ‘feed efficiency’ ratios were calculated in jest but the aim was to show that there was a gradual improvement to the feeding. After a couple of weeks a good feeding routine was established.
Alex was suckling within 10 minutes of being born and feeding properly within an hour of birth. He slept most of yesterday (well wouldn’t you too?) and was keen to feed last night after we went to bed around 9pm. He wouldn’t settle but was always happy to feed whenever offered. He had a good feed around 2:30 and an even better one at 4:00 which is when he finally fell asleep. Today he has had more defined feeding sessions with uninterrupted sleep in between. He might be more awake again tonight but we’ll be in bed again soon and should be able to grab 6 hours between now and 7am when Maria wakes.
Yesterday was a blur, I remember around Maria’s birth I was floating around in a dreamy little bubble for 4 or 5 days this time the blur is more to do with maintaining the normal routine for Maria whilst everything else is going on. My Mum and Dad looked after her yesterday and today Catriona’s Mum looked after us.
I can’t believe I’ve got a son, we didn’t know what sex he would be and I wasn’t particularly hung up on having a son but I did want him to be different to Maria and a daughter would have inevitably been compared to her. Whatever you say or do the 2nd time around cannot be as ‘special’ as the first especially when the first born is a first Grandchild on both sides of the family, but despite the chaos it’s definately less stressful and more fun.
I always dreamed of having a wife, daughter and son and a house I love with family close by – I really feel like I am the man who has everything and I thank God for all of these blessings.